Is LOVE a Fairytale?

We all grew up on these Disney, Cinderella movies waching, listening, wanting, observing in our lives....They paint a perfect picture as beautiful couple, they come together and have a perfect life and they live happily ever after.
But in real life,happen something like this, two imperfect people meets each other based on some common interest,desire and life goals.
Love grows within that relationship but it isn't without flaw they may have their fights but they always work it out and offer out life as they grow as they change they change and evolve together they have kids, grandkids then they die.life is not a fairytale. So relationships cannot be a fairy tale also nobody in this life is perfect. We secretly all women we have been thinking this fairy tale idea of love of relationships and of marriage. We narratives the plays the movies that tell us that our lives and how they work out you have to get into character you feel like yes I'm that girl who is that girl that girl is the woman in the movie who always gets perfect date you're playing that character it's not actually really who you're playing that character I think it's okay to have a little fun with that but this kind of relationship doesn't last you're disappointed and you're back to square one because you didn't show up as your real authentic self. Because subconsciously in your mind you're playing a character.What really really important is truly get comfortable with yourself and BE YOURSELF.
The truth of the matter is there's no such thing as they live happily ever after that's what they say in the movies that's not what happens in your life there is no happy ending unless you both actively work on it. I never want to get to a point where I start behaving like just bcoz I met the one that everything magically is going to be perfect just bcoz you're the right person does not mean you don't have to do any work. Good relationships don't just happen they are built very carefully and very intentionally so every time we disagreement with each other, it takes a lot of strength to humble ourself go to him apologize and ask him how I can do better and actively take steps to actually doing better not just apologizing and doing this anything again. But actually being conscious the next time you're in a similar situation to act differently and the reason why relationships are hard is because it's hard work to be humble we are naturally behave, to want our own way to do things the way that we want them to be done relationships are hard because people are hard work and the reality is racing ships are not for fairytale believers they are for people that are realists that understand for better for worse for richer for poorer warmer fairy tale doesn't sound - fairytale now does it for sickness and health sickness and that's the issue when people get married they stand before God,friends and family and they say their vows that are probably the biggest commitment you'll ever make in your entire life the biggest contract you'll ever sign in your life is called marriage and you literally have to sign that contract in blood your blood the cause is till death do us part which mean nothing to separate this marriage. I feel like a lot of people do not value marriage bcoz they do not value the vows they don't even respect the words that they say most people stand on their knees, I always love you I'll always protect you I'll always be nice to you... lies or the next day when you piss you off....all gone....
love is a commitment what happens if you just stop doing the thing that you vowed to do you stop communicating you stop saying I'm sorry, you stopped being kind to one another, you stop rumbling yourself, you stop putting another person before yourself and now you put yourself before. The other person you start to compare your marriage to somebody , you start to think that the grass is greener on the other side the grass is not going on our society is green where you water it now now. On the flipside do not get me wrong there's absolutely reasons to divorce somebody abuse multiple cheating disrespect all that kind of stuff there are definitely grounds for divorce and that's the reason why a lot of people stay in a marriage like that because they want their happy ending there they're happy ever after they want their perfect family they want to play happy families even though they aren't happy but the truth is trying to save a fundamentally flawed relationship for the sake of the kids it's basically like trying to reglue your hair back to your scalp after it's literally fallen out you're not fooling anybody let it go the fairy Chow is dead because it never existed in the first place
So am i saying that you cannot have your own version of Prince Charming, am I saying that you cannot have a happy relationship a happy marriage, but we do have to be realistic about relationships sometimes it's happy for five months straight and it is beautiful not a cloud in the sky but maybe the next one or two months it's raining non-stop , I know that the sun's gonna come out that's called hold, that's called faith that's called faith in your relationship. How perfect someone seems to you they have their flaws, lie to you none of us are flawless and for those who are in relationships I would like to encourage you in this way stop focusing on what your relationship is not and start accepting that relationship for what it is keep your mind focused on your own grass the grass is not greener on the other side it is greener where you water it comparison is the thief of your own joy stop comparing relationship to anybody else's it is unique it is different because you're unique and he's unique you both unique and your relationship is different there's no two identical relationships in this world here you do not believe the lies that you see on social media nobody is that happy and that's okay we need dark days to really appreciate the light days. How you power through the dark days, how you power through the light days and the person that you become in the process of it all and that person will be precious and that person will be beautiful.

Someone said, "You cannot live with expectations because life has no obligation to fulfill your desires. You can live with an open heart".