In another conversation with myself

We all grew up on these Disney, Cinderella movies waching, listening, wanting, observing in our lives....They paint a perfect picture as beautiful couple, they come together and have a perfect life and they live happily ever after. But in real life,happen something like this, two imperfect people meets each other based on some common interest,desire and life goals. Love grows within that relationship but it isn't without flaw they may have their fights but they always work it out and offer out life as they grow as they change they change and evolve together they have kids, grandkids then they die.life is not a fairytale. So relationships cannot be a fairy tale also nobody in this life is perfect. We secretly all women we have been thinking this fairy tale idea of love of relationships and of marriage. We narratives the plays the movies that tell us that our lives and how they work out you have to get into character you feel like yes I'm that girl who is that girl that girl is...

I am turning 30 on this 13th of August,which is just so crazy and it's just really funny to me that  people will be like oh my god you're turning 30 you're gonna be so old or how you feel about it are you depressed are you upset...its just kind of funny I laugh about it.. But at the end of the day I think there is some truth to it I think especially women we're very insecure about getting older,men are allowed to him get wrinkles and white hairs and stuff and it's handsome  but you know woman aren't supposed to age we're supposed to look 25 one more 55 which is like so unrealistic and I feel like we put pressure on ourselves and the idea of getting older like really freaks us out but  it's something that you can't control and I'm actually excited about turning 30. Im trying to be positive about things and I feel like growing up with some awasome things instead of freaking out. Just embracing ourselves in our age and all the good thing that come...

If you're a workaholic, you probably at some point in your life experienced the pressure of work and I know that that's something that definately happened to me while working and then I promised myself that in future it wouldn't be that way but realistically, I work on and on and on...so I guess I understand that struggling to find balence.  I mean doing the kind of work that I do is really hard to not want to reading,handmade crafting, poetry,excercising, cooking, photography, traveling, learning new things absolutely everything. And I think there's is a beauty to that, bcoz it helps me in some way to be in the present moment but sometimes it can also sap me out of it. I think the lot of the time we convince ourselves that we don't have the the time for self-care. We're stuck in this go go go mentality and time is a precious right? So it's better spend if you know we're working on something or studying something and I think it's imp to have good wor...

So I've got this ever-growing list of quotes and thoughts, and anytime I came across something that I find really inspiring, I write it down bcoz i have the memory of a goldfish. I refer to it every time I need a boost of inspiration or just some motivation and I want to share some of my thoughts with you. Especially the ones that have helped me to adopt more of positive mindset. 1.Focusing on possibility in place of limitations:🎯 We have all done this, saying I can't pick up that creative hobby because I'm not talented enough bcoz i just don't know how,or I'm not gonna go out and try making new friends coz I'm not likable or funny. When we tell others people or ourselves these things as if they are the absolute truth,we kind of start to believe them. It was Gay Hendricks who said in his book the big leap, ( if I cling to the notion that something is not possible, I am arguing in favour of limitation). And if I agrue for my limitations I get to keep them. But i...

I am sharing this information based on the book called ( A New Earth) by Eckhart tolle. In the book introduces the concept of having an ego,who indicates with somebody who feels like they're a lot better than everyone else. Instead I want u to see the ego as the identity that we've created about ourselves.  Example: I am creative, multitasker, hardworker also an anxious person all these positive or negative the ego is hidden in the Words...I,ME,MINE. So what we do about all of this Tolle says, That the key of to transcending the ego is to simply become aware of it.The problem of ego is hidden streams of unconscious thoughts that run through our head as soon as we become aware of that thoughts that camparing we are no longer the thoughts.We're now the awareness the person observing the thoughts the thoughts are just thoughts,the feeling are just feeling,but they're not us.We're not identify with it. If we spot the ego,we just need to look for the trail of emotional d...

You never know you gonna meet someone or need someone, we don't realise that the world is smaller than we think and more connected than we think. Karma is real. The way we behave with people will affect how  they will behave with us. The energy we put out into this,world will came back to us. We have to live with the consequences of our actions. We have to live with the consequences of our choices. We have to live with the consequences of our decisions. If we behave badly with others, we will receive similar treatment from others...,even if it's not from the same person we gave that energy to, it will come back. We used to treat people badly when we think they're not useful.,.and we treat others well because we think they're useful. To be honest ,no one is useless.... Everyone is a human. You have no idea when someone will be useful to you.And you have no idea that even dispite your behaviour, someone will show you kindness. The most attractive thing about yo...

It's been long I have had friendship at this level of closeness. It was terrifying to let you know what I knew myself to be. It is never all sunshine and rainbows.  Being this intimate with people means showing  the ugliest aspects of your personality that you were or are ashamed of and allowing yourself to just be in all of the shades that you are. It is a definite risk! But with you saying it was worth it would be an understatement. I agree that looking for external assurances for your self-worth is unhealthy but with people like you, who believe in me more than I do in myself, it takes me to a whole new world of self-belief. In a world where we all strive for close friendships where we can completely trust the other, I have found a diamond!  I was most definitely standing on my own feet before and now I fly! Thanks to all my diamonds...!!💎

She has high standards. She won’t settle for people that treat her disrespectfully. She won’t hold onto friendships that are toxic. She won’t let anyone that brings her down remain in her life. But she isn’t a hypocrite. She holds herself to those same standards. She expects herself to reach the stars, so she hates herself on the days when she sits in bed with a bag of chips and skips the work. On the days when she doesn’t get enough done. Of course, no matter how much she accomplishes in life, no matter how much love she gives, she keeps pushing herself further. She wants to do more. To be more. Because she knows she’s capable of more.  She’s insecure, because she believes in her potential and she knows that she hasn’t reached it yet. She trusts that she’ll succeed, but wishes that she could see more progress. She wants to know that she’s on the right path. That her faith is justified. No one sees how terrified she is. No one notices that she’s struggling to stay strong. She looks...

All my life I was made to believe that I wasn't worth much because I am dusky,thin, ugly and now these are just words not something that describes me. It all started with opening myself up to new possibilities along the way I also learnt to knowledge the other parts of myself that are smart, creative, funny,kind and maybe even beautiful only then dusky,thin and ugly bcoz just what I am and not things that makes me undesirable. I realised that if I hadn't learnt to keep myself open to possibilities I would still have struggled with who I am. It is dangerous to hold on to the identity that has been created for you or you create for yourself of what you should be, how you should be, who your boyfriend/ friend/husband should be,how your work should beand the other should be.... Rather than what you could be or What you want to be. This applies to almost everything,be it work, relationship or your beliefs. If you create an identity of yourself and marry yourself to that belief,it ca...

Here is the some points I have collected: 1. I had hold on to that job,that friend, that process like it was the destination. The idea of anything different was impossible to forget.But finally accepted the change is a good thing. 2.Time passes by faster than blink of an eye.What we do is more meanings,more experiences and try new things with time. There is nothing we can or can't do that needs to be checked off the age.so age is really just a number. 3. Don't be a yes person.One can't please everyone,one shouldn't.I have learnt that I have my opinions n voices, thoes opinion will hurt some people and make others proud. But I will not say yes to just anyone and everyone. 4. Dont except the world from anyone. Start putting myself first. How can I help me first. I f I think of investment more in myself.I am going to be a good daughter,sister, friend as I am now, and in future a good wife,mother,grandmother... Most important try everything. Leave out nothing. Be ...