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I was reading a Book called " The Rudest Book Ever". The first thing is caught my attention in this book is its title, why would any author name his book like this. It cames with a warning  which says read only if you are prepared to get your feelings hurt then I felt that this book has something unique to offer.
So here are the points:
1. You are a product
Even if you're a rich, genius, talented,good or strong, someday the world will exploit you and truble you. We are all product attached with hope that someday we will choose our Job, career, relationship and environment. And the better choices we make, the better product we are. But actually this is not what happens because all our lives we have only been through "what to think" and not "how to think".
This is the reason we are stuck and remain stuck in our unnecessary problems.
People who are taught "what to think" ask other people for solutions to their problems.
But people are taught "how to think" find their own solutions.

2. You want to be special
We all want to be special but we think that to be special is to be  born special or be told by someone that we are special. But this is not the case, we have to earn specialness. Whatever we achieve something by putting in hard work, decipline and focus, we trust ourselves that we are capable to do something. If you're dependent on someone to tell that you are special, that means you haven't achieved anything by yourself.

3. Rejections
Rejections, failure and losses of our life shape us psychologically if we don't know how to deal with them. Rejections are the part of life and we need to change our perception with it. It is normal. Whenever we got rejections we either accept that
1)we are loser, or
2)we decide to prove the world wrong or
3)we start blaming that the world is unfair.
Second position is powerful but not bcoz we want to be successful just to prove the people and that too those people who doesn't even care about our success. People who understand what they want to do in life, achieve success to prove to themselves.

4. People are weird
When you see a lion, you immediatly think danger, when you see a puppy who think of friendliness. But what you think of while looking at people? If you saw someone helping you think people are good.if someone doing wrong, you think people are bad. You might think that (people are complicated) but this doesn't actually tells us anything about them. People are stidid is negative and people are good is positive, so a better perception of what people are is (people are weird). Its not positive or negative. When you accept that people are weird you allow them to do anything and don't judge them. If you face rejection, you just think of that people are wired and move on immediately.

5. How your self dies
When we were a kid, we used to depend upon each other people to tell us whether we are capable or not. Suppose you know you have written your exam very well but you still wait for the teacher to give a grade. You give teacher the power to tell you whether you are capable or not. We grow up, but this habit doesn't die. We want to do something in life, but bcoz we don't know what we want to do, we start doing things that people whose approval we want. And this is how we lose our identity.

6. Screw happiness
We do not understand the difference between satisfaction and happiness. We do get happiness watching movies, spending time with friends, partying ,but we do not get satisfaction. Chasing self satisfaction provide us with peacefulness and also happiness as a product.

7. You are a nation
If you want approval and acceptance from yourself then you need to start looking at yourself as a nation. You are a nation and other people like parents, friend are other neighbouring nations. You are the president of your nation. Your moral rules and codes are the  constitution. Self control is the security forces. Self respect is the happiness index. Desires and urges are harming your nation are terrorist. Ego is the opposite party with whom you will have to work together sometimes. Self satisfaction is the prosperity of your nation. You don't want another nation to rule over your nation so became the authority of your nation and decide what is right and wrong for your nation.

8. Screw your heroes
We have a habit of simply things,that is the reason we divide people with bad one and good one or hero and villain. But this not true people are not entirely good or bad whenever we consider someone as our hero or role model we start considering them above human beings and start assuming that they can't do anything wrong but we need to understand the hero is just fictional character and does not exist in the real world. When we start looking at humans as humans,we can expect the unexpected from them.

9. Admire never follow
Whenever we follow someone, we start imitating them and start defeing their mistakes bcoz we think they are perfect. But NOBODY'S PERFECT. Instead of following, we should admire the skill, quality of that person's try to learn it. There is no one with whom you will agree and disagree on everything 100%. There is no person from whom you can't learn something new.