I have a rights to be angry?.,.Win or lose?

"Sometimes we have lose the battle to win the war."
In order to 'win' which is to be happy we have to focus on our actual objectives in the big picture and not our emotions objectives in the heat of the moment.
When we feel that someone is being unreasonable, it's natural for us to react with anger bcoz we want them to see how unfairly we are being treated and for them to admit for how wrong they are.
But in the big picture is that important?
Our emotions objectives in the heat of the moment saying YES.. FIGHT!! Stand up for what you believe in.
When we focus on our actual objectives in the big picture, we'll realise that in order to properly stand up for urself which is to achieve what we want we have to handle the situation in a way that will put out the fire instead of stoking the flames.
If we react negatively the other person is going to react even more negatively. And you're going to want to top that and so you're stoking each other and both are on fire and becoming hotter.
But why should we remain clam when they are the one shouting being unreasonable.
Example : if one person is dancing around like a monkey..you don't have to join the circus. Bcoz then there'll be two monkeys dancing around.
In any situation there need to be one mature and reasonable person. Then why not you?
Don't let your ego trick you into joining in the monkey dance.
Our ego is shouting for us to win win win so loudly that it drowns out our wisdom. What our wisdom is trying to tell us that we're not winning. We're losing bcoz we can't even think straight in our anger, much less achieve any of our objectives. So we think we're standing up for ourselves,, but we are end up sabotaging ourselves. We often self sabotage without realising it bcoz winning the battle feels so satisfying that we cannot see that we've lost the war. We think satisfaction is winning but in reality it contribute nothing to our goals or our happiness.
Really winning in life we can handle different situations in a way that can help us achieve our actual objectives whether it's in our relationship , family or at work.
That's what means to be HAPPY.